- It's normal to feel angry, upset, sad about CF.
- It takes a while to adjust to the reality of the disease.
- CF is not an excuse to stop enjoying life.
- When I focus on what "could have been" or "what might be" (and it's often been assuming the worst will happen), I rob today of its happiness.
- It's not my fault that Peter has CF. I can't choose what genes I pass on to my children.
- By fund raising, we are working towards a cure and new treatments.
- Being compliant with Peter's meds and treatments teaches Peter that it is important to take care of himself.
- I have to take care of myself -- including exercising, eating right (not doing so good with that one lately), spending some "me" time everyday, and getting to bed at a good time every night.
- Peter can have a great life even if it is shortened.
- We can make our own happiness even in discouraging circumstances.
Thursday, April 8, 2010
Depression, Anxiety, and Hope for a CF Parent
Depression and anxiety are things we struggle with in our family, even before we found out that Peter had cystic fibrosis. For about a year and a half after Peter was diagnosed, I spent a lot of time feeling miserably depressed and anxious. I couldn't sleep; my time with Peter was devoid of joy; and although I tried to be happy, I couldn't get over the overwhelming feelings of loss and anxiety about Peter's and our family's future. Fortunately, I have a sister who recognized these signs and urged me to get help. So, thanks to medicine and therapy, I have been able to see our lives and cystic fibrosis differently. These are some of the things I have learned that have given me a new sense of hope: